Raising A Strong Family – Some Guidelines

The heart of each culture is the smallest unit that comprises that culture.

It’s not the individual – although it’s easy to make that mistake.

Culture, and from that, community of every size all the way up to nationality, is based on social bonds. This makes the smallest unit of a culture the family.

Friendships and other social groups can form a similar role, but unlike the family they do not encompass the child-rearing aspect.

Family is the smallest unit that exists within a culture in the past, present and future. The connection to ancestors holds the history and traditions of culture that we wouldn’t be here without.

In the future, the children of a family go on to continue that legacy, just as the adult members of the family do so in the present.

Without a strong family unit, the culture disappears and is replaced by the culture those who do have strong family units.

Declining birth rates, later marriage, rising divorce rates and abortion all contribute to a weakening of the family unit.

You don’t have to look far to find gleefully enthusiastic support for anything and everything that weakens the families of Europeans and makes the genocide of our people that much easier.

Raising a family that is strong enough to resist these dark influences isn’t easy – but it’s incredibly rewarding. It’s not just you that benefits either. Others will see the happiness and pride that your family gives you, and will be eager to replicate it for themselves.

So, how can you actually go about doing it?

#1 Making Family Time

This sounds obvious, but unfortunately it needs to be said.

If you don’t actually spend any time with your children and spouse, the family will fall apart. You need to be there with them for many things. People value the time they spend with each other more than anything else, material gifts are no substitute for love. Love can only be expressed by being together – it’s an exchange.

On top of that, you cannot act as a mentor when you spend most of every day and every weekend somewhere else. Before you even think about teaching your children about their proud heritage, somebody has to show them the basics of taking care of themselves. Whoever acts as their guide in those early years will be the one who has their respect. If that person is somebody else, such as a school teacher, it will be their political and social views that the children adopt.

Now, it goes without saying that you can’t be there for your children all of the time. You have a responsibility to keep your family warm, sheltered and fed.

You have a couple of choices for dealing with this. First off, you can make sure you’re there when it matters most. This means not skipping out on birthdays, competitions and the like. Taking your children on trips when you have time off of work.

The other option is to find a way to work from home, or at least have enough control over your own business so that you’re the one with ultimate control over when you work and when you don’t.

As an example of how this works, I’d like to share some details from my own life. When my son was born, I worked the night shift at a store five nights a week. I was also just starting out as a freelancer. If I wasn’t sleeping, I was working. This caused a lot of tension in my family, and nearly triggered a number of irrevocable splits.

Thankfully, I made the wise decision to stop working in the store. This turned out not to be practical, so I reduced the number of hours I was working until I was only there a couple of nights every week. With the time I had gained I was able to grow my freelancing business to a point that surpassed the money I had been earning in traditional employment and have the freedom to choose which hours I spent working and which I spent with my family.

Sure, I was exceptionally busy at times. But there were very few fixed periods in which I had no choice in what I did. If my family needed me, or if I wanted to take advantage of a sunny day to do something together with them, I could do it.

My approach was a hybrid of the two options I mentioned previously. This isn’t necessarily better than those, it’s simply what worked best for me based on what my skills and situation were. It doesn’t matter how you do it, the point is that you don’t let your family life slip away while you’re too busy for them.

#2 Be A Role Model

Now that you’re able to spend time with your family, it’s the perfect opportunity to show what a man or woman should behave, look and think like.

Plenty of people have different ideas on what exactly that is, even within our own community. The truth is, many of these differences in opinion are inconsequential. There are a few key themes that are hard to argue against, however, and they can be embodied by both parents just as easily.

I won’t get into what my own personal philosophy is too much. The key thing to take away is that it’s not enough to just tell your children what’s right and what’s not. Without acting in that way yourself, your children will quickly deduce that it’s not really important after all – or you’d be doing it!

There are a couple of pitfalls to be aware of. First off, if you constantly build up a picture of yourself as absolutely perfect and that anything less than that is unacceptable, your kids will be riddled with anxiety.

The goal isn’t to show perfection. It’s to show them what can be achieved if you apply yourself with consistency.

Secondly, kids can be rebellious. They will eventually begin to assert their own identity. The thing is, if you’ve done a great job of being a parent, then it won’t really matter. Your kid could get a piercing just because they can, but that doesn’t mean they’re going to throw the ideals that have guided them from strength to strength away.

On the other hand, if your child ends up becoming a SJW, then you’ve gone wrong somewhere down the line, which we’ll take a look at now.

#3 Avoid Being Dogmatic

Raising a family and defending your homeland are distinct but related.

When it comes to family, the idea is that they will one day take your place and be strong enough to safeguard the same spot for their children, and so on.

However, all it takes is for one link in the family chain to fail and we end up with a world like the one we have today.

It might seem slightly counter-intuitive depending on your own childhood, but ‘laying down the law’ isn’t always the best option. You can force your family to act in a certain way in your presence, but overt and unyielding authority isn’t always the best method.

Passing on the torch requires a much more nuanced approach. Your family must feel free to question what you say without fear of retribution. Instead, you should welcome these questions as a chance for them to come to the right and moral conclusion by themselves.

This is the basis of what’s known as the Socratic Method. Instead of a teacher laying out facts to be accepted as they are, students use their own reasoning and intellect to figure out the answer for themselves. Children don’t rebel against themselves. They rebel against what appears to be pointless and self serving authority.

This has a number of useful benefits. First off, you don’t bang your head against a brick wall trying to explain your beliefs. Secondly, your children develop the critical thinking skills that stand them in good stead against the constant onslaught of propaganda aimed at them through the mainstream media, educational institutions and other outlets.

So far we’ve taken a look at what you can do if you already have a family.

However, in order for this to have any lasting impact it’s just as important to understand what the foundations a family is built on.

Choosing the Right Spouse

That party girl that likes to get drunk every weekend? Forget about her. She might be fun now, but will she really be a good mother? That dark and troubled man with a history of substance abuse? He won’t be one to count on when times are hard and money is short.

You will almost certainly know of a few families in which the parents are ill-suited for both each other and the responsibilities of raising children. With a little luck, their children will escape the influence, but the most probable outcome lacks promise of a healthy and bright future. All it takes is one bad parent to create a dysfunctional family unit.

Money

You’ve probably heard scarily large numbers thrown around concerning how much it costs to raise a child.

Thankfully, this isn’t true. You can spend ludicrous amounts of money, but this is a lifestyle issue. Children don’t actually need or even want half of the rubbish that’s bought for them, especially if it’s only expensive because of a brand name. You can raise a family on as little as £1000 a month and not see a single bad effect because of it.

However, money, and particularly debt, can cause massive damage to a family. There’s no need to wait until you’re earning a 6 figure salary to start a family, but make sure you have your house in order. Learn to manage your spending habits correctly, and teach your children these same skills.

Money problems are one of the biggest threats to a harmonious family life. Don’t allow the same thing to happen to you. Have savings to tide you through loss of employment. Have more than one source of income. Buy clothes that look good and last a long time, but don’t get sucked into paying three times more just so you can have a tiny logo in the corner.

Keeping these principles in mind will keep your family strong. There is much more to say on the subject, but that’s beyond the scope of one article. Trust in your own instincts, and look to your own family for examples of both what to do and what not to do, and please share your own stories for the sake of others. There’s nothing more powerful than a community full of strong families. It’s our duty to share that which is useful to each other and our future generations.

 

//Guest article by W. R. Mowatt

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